{Magic of the Mundane} a promise to my lovies…

April 3, 2012

The first week, my husband asked me why my contribution to {Magic of the Mundane} wasn’t the first entry. I told him “I don’t want this to be about me, or my blog, or me trying to promote it. No rules, no having to follow me, or place my button on their blog. None of that. They don’t even have to have a blog. I want everyone to feel like they can contribute.” No rules also meant that the entries would be as diverse as the amazing people behind them. I didn’t want other people’s {magic} to conform to my ideas. So, I made my entry the last one. ”This isn’t about me. I just host this thing.”

But in my mind, {Magic of the Mundane} was going to be huge right off the bat. I thought it was going to grow by leaps and bounds, week after week. But, as the weeks went on, and the entries grew less instead of more, I began to question… myself and my blog. What am I doing here? Is it even worth it? Is this the best use of my time? I have six kids to educate and nurture, a husband to cherish, and a home to manage… what am I thinking? I’m obviously delusional. I’m not good enough. And the doubt took over until I went from “maybe just a few days a week” to “I’m done”.

Never mind the fact that I’m the host of this thing and I was finding it difficult to participate. Is it a sign that my contribution only ever comes to me at the last minute?

Because here I was, writing, but struggling to get the words out about how my brother came to visit last week, and how Mia started walking just as she turned a year old, and how those two things were the magic in an otherwise less than mundane week. After feeling so ill that I thought I was going to end up in the ER, that was the magic that made me pull myself together. So, that’s what I was going to write about. But instead, at the last minute, I received an email from someone in my past. And it not only completely changed my post, but it changed my entire outlook.

This email reminded me that you truly never know how your presence affects another human being. You never know how your involvement in someone’s life, however short it may have been, may have inspired a difference. And that email reminded me of the woman I once was, ages ago, and the woman I’ve secretly aspired to be once again. And it reminded me that what I do today still matters.

It’s a thankless and unglamorous job I have today, being just Sofia, and the Sofia behind Sofia’s Ideas… but it matters to me, and it will matter to my family. That email reminded me that it was never any one thing I did; it wasn’t about a brilliant idea or decision or moment. Rather, it was the culmination of the little things I said and did over time.

The same goes for being a wife and mother. When they look back, they may remember specific days and words with me, but mostly, I think they’ll remember how I made them feel… especially about themselves. They’ll remember that I was always happy to see them; that I greeted them each morning, and each time they walked through the door, with a big smile on my face, and cheerful words, and open arms. They’ll remember that regardless of the kind of day we had together, I made sure they went to bed knowing that my love for them was unconditional and unwavering. They’ll remember how I felt about my roles and responsibilities, and that will also affect the reflection they see of themselves in my eyes.

The length of my involvement in my husband’s, and each of my children’s lives, isn’t something I want to take for granted. Tomorrow with them is never guaranteed, so I will try my best to make today magical. I will climb Mt. Washmore, and I will swim through the sea of clutter, and do it knowing that the day will soon come that they’ll be grown and I’ll miss being able to climb and swim with them. I’ll do the mundane things knowing that the magic is in this journey I am fortunate enough to take with them. There is magic inherent in the gift of just having another day. So, this is a promise to my lovies… I will do my best to create {Magic of the Mundane}.

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Meissa

What a beautiful post! I think we’ve all had those “moments” particularly us mothers. So much to do and so little time and does it really matter…it does and they will remember. Hope you are feeling better!
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Sarah

this is perfection, as are you!
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AnneMarie Ramirez

It seems more like the Magic of the Mundane found you, and you don’t have to create it, you just have to see it! Those kids and the husband are beyond blessed to have such a magical, loving woman in their lives! They will grow to remember all those things. And one day when your children are faced with their own Mt Washmores and seas of clutter, they will remember your smile, roll up their sleeves and swim and climb with and for their children, cause MaMos taught them right, by example! You are doing a phenomenal job! I look up to you, admire and respect you so much! And I look forward to reading and seeing more, now that my life is freed from the shackles of classes! Lol!
The picture you shared is beautiful… Don’t ever doubt your influence on others, we may not always get to tell you how much you impact us, but you do… And I love you for it!! <3

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AnneMarie Ramirez

I left this big messgae from my phone, and for some reason it didn’t post…

I had said, the story is one most can truly relate to. There are days we all say “Is this even worth it?” What that email showed you is true all the time. We may not get to tell you, but you influence us daily… At least I know you do me. I look up to you, admire and respect you deeply. I read your blogs and find inspiration to move on. You are very special Sofia!

As for those amazing children, you may be too close to the project to see… But those babies are learning valuable life lessons from you. One day they will look out at their own Mt. Washmores and seas of clutter, remeber your smile, roll up their sleeves, smile big for their children climb their Mt Washmore and swim that sea of clutter because that’s what they know….

Those lessons are invaluable! They will unknowingly guide their lives the way they say you. That’s magical!!

Keep up the great work! I’m looking to you for the inspiration still! <3

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Mary G

I love reading ur blog n I’ve missed ur posts over the week. ur blog is refreshing so don’t stop u have to many fans! even if we don’t comment on ur blog it doesn’t mean we don’t follow it ;)

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